Understanding when matchmaking is the terms and provisions of Allah that indeed God is already set when the time and who it is indeed necessary. But at other times we also have space endeavor to evaluate ourselves to find errors which could possibly be a hindrance mate of Allah SWT. Therefore, if the length of a mate by the provisions of the God of course we have no power to change it but if it is of an error or oversight yourself then we have a chance to improve themselves and seeking forgiveness from Him.In this article we try to parse the eight things that might be a barrier as well as delaying the arrival of a mate's wedding.
1. Much of Allah SWT
One thing we must realize is that we as human beings have no power at all over us especially on our soul mate. God is powerful, almighty God who determines and we need to realize too is all the good things we achieve and get in this world is simply out of mercy and compassion of Allah SWT.If we believe God is everything and we are nobodies then it should we draw closer to Allah, submissive and obedient to Him, run the command and leave the ban. Due to being something strange if we hope for help from God (including dating), but we are far from God, praying in the rest of the time, rarely dhikr, read the verses rarely, never pray.
So, now also evaluate ourselves all this time, how our relationship with Allah SWT?, How we pray? how the Koran recitations us? and other acts of worship. It may be that we are away from God is the reason we delayed mate, God wants us to get married in a state of obedient and piety to him and the marriage took to reach ridhonya.
2. Not ridhonya parents
There is a figure who willingly fought for us, he loves us even since we are not in this world. a figure that is always worried about us, we are always thinking, always put us than himself and always pray for us in silence and wrapped her tears. A figure that is our fathers and mothers, our parents.Try to reflect ourselves, how our relationship with our mother and father? have we obey her? whether we have a happy heart? have we made him quiet? or as we often let him down? hector him? do not care? or even make himself disappointed to have children like us?. Now it's time to improve themselves with our parents, to apologize to her, prostrate at their feet, and ask her heartfelt and sincere prayer in order to pray facilitated meeting with the world's best mate hereafter.
3. Treasure haram or doubtful
What we eat greatly affects the mind, heart, and vibration behavior ourselves. Perhaps treasures we eat during this time there is a speck of the prohibition in it or grayish so therefore God postpone our sustenance in this case is a mate. Many types of illicit assets and doubtful as usury, corruption, cheating and so forth.
4. Be restless
There was the possibility indeed ever came mate makes the heart restless, not quiet even tend to stress especially when there is increased pressure from various parties to be married. So distractedly that ultimately have an impact on the face that is always gloomy, sacking random appearance, and makes a mate getting away.
Keeping the peace of mind is important, because at least with the airy spirit, mind quiet street emerged a variety of easiness of Allah SWT. And, so that the heart is always calm is certainly no other way but always made it linked to Allah.
5. Have the expectations too high even perfect on the criteria for a mate
If you're one of the adherents of this understanding, have too high expectations on your match criteria then know you're married to a man, the wrong place and make mistakes. So in fact it is impossible to hope that perfect even be a sad if you have not found the perfect partner or comfortable in the liver and make it as a reason to postpone the wedding.
During his religion good, moral good and also have the mental preparation and financial well then accept. It may be that men who dare to come applying for a home that is indeed the best man that God skenariokan you. Certainly God had a reason why he chose the man miliyarn among other men on this earth that comes your house.
6. Trauma past
Trauma past becomes a reason to postpone the wedding for many people, for example, there are women who have been traumatized in males since been let down, the trauma of being abused by a male and a trauma because in the past has been dropped on sex and was not a girl anymore.
For this problem, the solution we must realize that God is merciful as bad or whatever sacking seacak our past as long as we repent to Him with true repentance, Hopefully the door of repentance is always open for us. Do not give up easily, despair and complain of God's grace. And, one more thing that must be remembered is that not all men are the same, among men evil, irresponsible and that disappoint many other men who are obedient, pious, loving and respecting women.
7. Less focused on the completion of a personal matter
Not a few also who delay marriage on the grounds that want to improve themselves first, to solve the problem yourself first but if personal problems such as debt, self rudimentary, or even have a disease will be lighter if it done with a partner. Rest assured there are many men who are willing to partner complete with advantages and disadvantages.
8. Do not committed at the targeted time.
Often we make a target when to get married, for example, will get married at the age of 23 years. When approaching the age of 23 years, it was felt themselves not perfect, or do not have a candidate. So easily made us postpone more time. Now, in order to avoid delay then commit to a predetermined time, do endeavor semakimal may start praying to God, asking for prayer by parents, friends and well resolved by the teacher of the Koran ask potential partners if indeed why not have a spouse.
8 Things That barrier arrival of matchmaking, marriage is the destiny of Allah, but Allah gives room for us to endeavor to find it. Hopefully useful and can be a path to self-improvement.
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